Life is about feeling good. When you are feeling any emotion that makes you feel bad, stop and think about what would make you feel better. There are always two sides to every subject and feeling.
You might not feel good that you are short of cash/one side, however, you can feel better thinking at least payday is in two days/other side. Flipping how you feel about a subject can change how long you stay in a negative state of mind and unhappiness.
One side of a subject: There was a time when I lost my best friend (my step mom), my partner left me during the time she passed away and I was left to deal with a failing business that we shared. To add further to my pain, my father passed away too. All my friends were concerned about how I was going to handle all the stress. Even though I went through a time of mourning which is only natural, I refused to allow myself to stay in a constant state of depression. So, I reached for better feeling thoughts to recover.
The other side of the subject: I didn't have to worry about my parents anymore, because, I knew where they were at all the times. Funny I know. Additionally, even though the business failed, I no longer had to worry about all the details, my struggles were gone. It left me with more time to focus on my happiness and my children.
We have a friend who is in a constant state of depression. When we hear from her, all she talks about is how bad she feels. Regardless of all the counseling she receives and the medicines she is on...she stays in a constant state of self destruction. No matter what advice anyone has to offer, she refuses to consider her options. The only person who can really help her, is herself.
We only get to live life once...so it's a shame to waste all our time being miserable. How long do you want to stay in an unhappy state of mind?
Friday, February 26, 2010
Friday, February 12, 2010
Winter Games Death
What a tragic day for the Winter Olympics...Nodar Kumaritashvili was killed during a practice run on the Luger track. I have many thoughts to consider about this tragedy and I will do my best to explain my position through a personal experience.
While raising money for handicapped children on a haunted hay ride, I became seriously injured. Oh it was my fault and luckily, unlike the Olympics, no one else was subjected to my stupidity.
I opted to have two aerial scenes where I would come from above to frighten the hay riders. On one scene, I had several rather bad practice runs that resulted in quick decisions and a huge failure on my part to recognize safety issues. There were several fast passes, a near miss of a broken tree that almost went up my spine. With a new repelling rope and the wrong gloves; too cheap to buy the real ones...I made one last attempt before night fall. I came down way too fast again, only this time, my leg snapped and it was lying beside me. In shock, I reached down and set my leg back in place.
Why did I ignore the warning signs? Was it ego? Who knows! But, the question that comes to me is this; "with so many professionals watching the practice runs fail several times before this young man was killed; why did they not raise the caution flag and re-evaluate the track?" Unlike me, they had many people available to discuss the issue. Safety should always be the number one concern for the designers of these courses and events.
Sure you will have accidents as a result of the inherent dangers associated with all sports. However, do we need to add to the inherent dangers for the sake of saving money by cutting corners or simply failing to stop the practice runs to evaluate the situation? Very sad that no one made this important decision. Moving forward: My heart and prayers go out to his family, friends, team mates and coaches. Perhaps this will be a lesson not forgotten.
While raising money for handicapped children on a haunted hay ride, I became seriously injured. Oh it was my fault and luckily, unlike the Olympics, no one else was subjected to my stupidity.
I opted to have two aerial scenes where I would come from above to frighten the hay riders. On one scene, I had several rather bad practice runs that resulted in quick decisions and a huge failure on my part to recognize safety issues. There were several fast passes, a near miss of a broken tree that almost went up my spine. With a new repelling rope and the wrong gloves; too cheap to buy the real ones...I made one last attempt before night fall. I came down way too fast again, only this time, my leg snapped and it was lying beside me. In shock, I reached down and set my leg back in place.
Why did I ignore the warning signs? Was it ego? Who knows! But, the question that comes to me is this; "with so many professionals watching the practice runs fail several times before this young man was killed; why did they not raise the caution flag and re-evaluate the track?" Unlike me, they had many people available to discuss the issue. Safety should always be the number one concern for the designers of these courses and events.
Sure you will have accidents as a result of the inherent dangers associated with all sports. However, do we need to add to the inherent dangers for the sake of saving money by cutting corners or simply failing to stop the practice runs to evaluate the situation? Very sad that no one made this important decision. Moving forward: My heart and prayers go out to his family, friends, team mates and coaches. Perhaps this will be a lesson not forgotten.
Monday, February 8, 2010
Colts VS Saints
Spirit is a fickle thing. Today, we saw Peyton Manning and the Colts lose to New Orleans. Most people talk about what it takes to make a great football team. They practice hard to prepare for the season and they tell themselves that they are mentally prepared. Each game moves them closer to the trophy. But, what does it take to win?
The New Orleans Saints were pre-destined to win. I call it the “right stuff” that resides in the heart and soul of an athlete. The spirit that says against all odds, I can win, we can win. It's a contagious thing that vibrates in the air. New Orleans had that spirit. They were humble and they plugged away knowing that they had the right stuff to win.
The Colts showed up to play the game. The defense started out fine all right, but then they lay back on their laurels believing that their great quarter back is going to score tit for tat. The momentum was fleeting to say the least.
The Colts were not aware that the spirit of the game was not with their team. There was no sense of urgency to get the job done. I sensed it was because they were used to going down the wire. But the true nature of their defeat was never so evident then the last drive down the field. Oh yes they moved the ball, but not in the manner I expected.
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure this part out. Manning is the best Quarter back in the league and yet what he is famous for wasn't present in this game. No it's not all his fault. But, one has to wonder! What happened to the precision of the two minute drill? Run the ball up the middle? Pass the ball up the middle versus passing down the side line? What was that all about? Time management is his forte after all.
Don’t get me wrong, I love Peyton and I have to say that he just missed the boat on leading his team to victory. I understand his need to stay focused and sit in contemplation over the game. It’s just that this was the game to end the season. At least in the second half, get off the bench and cheer you're team onto victory.
It would have been nice to see the match between Brett Favre and Peyton Manning. Brett Favre was brutalized by the Saints. That was my main concern for Peyton going into this game. Protect your quarter back and you will win, or so they say? Unlike Favre, Manning really had no pressure that was pressing enough to lose the game. They even had a running game to boot! The whole game was la se faire for the Colts in my opinion. You can’t win a football game just by staying close. 10 and 0 was a great start and then they stopped!
Both the offense and defense for the New Orleans Saints had the fortitude to stay in the game. Kudos for the head coach Sean Peyton. Finally, a coach who has faith in his team enough to call a play that goes against the norm. Not to mention his gutsy call to start the second half. Yes, he came to coach his team to victory. He, like his coaching staff and the players came to win. He should get the coach of the year award!
The New Orleans Saints were pre-destined to win. I call it the “right stuff” that resides in the heart and soul of an athlete. The spirit that says against all odds, I can win, we can win. It's a contagious thing that vibrates in the air. New Orleans had that spirit. They were humble and they plugged away knowing that they had the right stuff to win.
The Colts showed up to play the game. The defense started out fine all right, but then they lay back on their laurels believing that their great quarter back is going to score tit for tat. The momentum was fleeting to say the least.
The Colts were not aware that the spirit of the game was not with their team. There was no sense of urgency to get the job done. I sensed it was because they were used to going down the wire. But the true nature of their defeat was never so evident then the last drive down the field. Oh yes they moved the ball, but not in the manner I expected.
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure this part out. Manning is the best Quarter back in the league and yet what he is famous for wasn't present in this game. No it's not all his fault. But, one has to wonder! What happened to the precision of the two minute drill? Run the ball up the middle? Pass the ball up the middle versus passing down the side line? What was that all about? Time management is his forte after all.
Don’t get me wrong, I love Peyton and I have to say that he just missed the boat on leading his team to victory. I understand his need to stay focused and sit in contemplation over the game. It’s just that this was the game to end the season. At least in the second half, get off the bench and cheer you're team onto victory.
It would have been nice to see the match between Brett Favre and Peyton Manning. Brett Favre was brutalized by the Saints. That was my main concern for Peyton going into this game. Protect your quarter back and you will win, or so they say? Unlike Favre, Manning really had no pressure that was pressing enough to lose the game. They even had a running game to boot! The whole game was la se faire for the Colts in my opinion. You can’t win a football game just by staying close. 10 and 0 was a great start and then they stopped!
Both the offense and defense for the New Orleans Saints had the fortitude to stay in the game. Kudos for the head coach Sean Peyton. Finally, a coach who has faith in his team enough to call a play that goes against the norm. Not to mention his gutsy call to start the second half. Yes, he came to coach his team to victory. He, like his coaching staff and the players came to win. He should get the coach of the year award!
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